As an Asian-American (ok…half) I’ve heard pretty much all of these things said. I always laugh when I get the “Are you from North or South Korea?” Honestly people, if I was from North Korea do you really think I would 1. exist (with a white dad), 2. Be able to leave the country?
People think that racism against Asians is minimal or that because I’m well assimilated into the white world that I don’t encounter it, but this is a good example of the fact that my own friends make racist remarks to me all the time. My way of coping with this is to make fun of my own “asian-ness.”
But the one comment that always pisses me off the most is, “You’re Asian AND a woman, there’s no way in hell I’d let you near my car.” LISTEN PEOPLE I’m a freaking amazing driver. I have driven over 15 hours a week since the age of 18 commuting 40 minutes to my job for Red Bull and then getting into a Mini Cooper with a giant Red Bull can on the back and driving around some more. THAT TINY CAR IS NOT SO EASY TO OPERATE IN THE SNOW, BUT I AM A CHAMPION AND HAVE NEVER BEEN IN A CAR ACCIDENT IN MY LIFE. SUCK ON THAT RACIST, CHAUVINIST A-HOLES.
Ok, rant over.
Anyways, this is a bigger deal than people just obtusely insulting my driving ability. So if you do this, if you call your asian friend a geisha out of love, or think it’s ok to say racist things because they make jokes about themselves being asian, know that it’s not cool, bro. Usually when people are self-deprecating it’s because they’re self conscious about that issue and use it as a way to fit in.